We often have those moments where we felt that we lack self-esteem or self-confidence. We take the time to think negatively. But have we ever thought of giving ourselves a break? “Hey, self, why don’t you rest for a while.” We often forget about this, but we really need to take a deep breath sometimes. At this point, we know about self-love. We understand its meaning and its purpose. But after learning it, do we take time to practice it? And most importantly, how do we practice it?
1. Motivate Yourself
A famous quote by Rene Descartes saying, “I think, therefore I am.” Start each day by saying, “I can do it.” Even if you think at first that you cannot do it. Believe that you can. Take charge of what is within you. If what is inside is strong, it can influence the outside. If we start to think that we can do anything, we then learn how to play our emotions with our own hands. Even if we will, we must learn to get back up. Because we believe we can do anything.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others.
“They are so much better than me.” “I wish I am them.” Comparisons might motivate others, but for some, it puts a lot of pressure on themselves. And it is true. Comparing yourself to others puts a lot of negative emotions due to the underlying circumstances. Here is what we need to think. Everybody has different paces. We move according to our own pace. Some move slowly, some moves fast. But the point is, we are all different. The path that we are walking through varies from the others. Keep these in mind. Stop looking at who is ahead or who is behind you but start looking at your own feet.
3. Celebrate your EVERY achievement.
By EVERY, it means EVERYTHING, including the little things. What little things? Small matters such as the success of getting up even if you were tired the last night. The success of being able to drink at least 8 glasses of water a day. Those might not be achievements for some, but it takes strength to accomplish these. By this, you are affirming yourself that you can do it. This motivates you that you can do more, and you can achieve a lot of things. Celebrate all the way. Reward yourself with encouragement. Celebrations make you feel happy. It makes you feel good. What is vital for self-love is your happiness.
4. Try something new.
Well, this might be hard to do at first but after getting the hang of doing something new is an incomparable satisfaction. Sometimes, we really need to think outside the box. But also, we must go beyond the box. Experiment outside our comfort zones. The world is very diverse. Its beauty can be seen if we surpass our limits. We will never know what kind of satisfaction or happiness we will see from other experiences if we never try. And once we finally gained that contentment, it creates a thought within us that we are much capable to become the best.
5. Accept yourself.
Accepting yourself is not as easy as it may sound. It takes a lot of energy to finally welcome flaws. All humans are not perfect. Nobody is. The image of being perfect comes up when we try to project others in ourselves. In that sense, we begin to see our flaws. But if we see those flaws, we need to accept it. There is nothing wrong with having mistakes. It is what makes us human, no matter how big or how small. We should keep in mind that our flaws do not always stay within us. We can change, and it is also important to remind ourselves of that.
7. Surround yourselves with positive people.
Your environment affects you. Everything around you, especially the people around you. How do we keep ourselves being surrounded by the right people? We should know how the people around us affect us. Do not be afraid to cut off toxic people. Those people who keep us down. Those people who continuously tear our mental health. No matter how close we are. Or how we are related to those persons, but if they try to ruin our mental health, we need to stop being with them. Self-love also means prioritizing ourselves more. And by prioritizing ourselves, that considers our happiness and what is better for us first, before others. If we have fulfilled the love that we need from ourselves, it is only then that we can give others some love.
Practicing self-love, just like sports, it requires consistency. We may not perfect all these practices, but we should try our best to do it and experience the beauty of being able to love yourself.
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